Berlin (medical world) - who maintains friendships, lives 22% longer, mentally balanced and happier. However, we neglect our friends: 60% of respondents said in interviews that they considered their friendships for improvement. But how do you improve friendships?
The Berlin psychotherapist Wolfgang Krueger, in his book "How to win friends for life" to the fact that we must invest more time, especially in friendships. After a busy day, although we are all too often still in a position in the gym or watch TV. But for the design the friendships we lack the most necessary force. Therefore, our friendships are falling apart, what we feel, especially in the peak hours of life.
Kruger calls that one should invest at least two hours a week in his friendships. This is especially important for men. Krueger stated that maintain only 1 / 3 of all men real friendships in which they can also report about themselves. Contrast, 2 / 3 of women have a good friend. In this respect, should men take women to model today, if they want to be friendly efficient. And women often appreciate the frankness of the great male friendships.
But what is a good friendship and what it is destroyed? Krueger's surveys show that stands for 55% of respondents ranked the unreliability of one of the "deadly sins" of a friendship. At a friend will be able to rely above all, he should be a rock in the maelstrom of life. We expect that he is there when we absolutely need him, he listens and cares. In average friendships we should not expect this. You can not tell everything on it is not always reliable. Although these friendships are important, but one should not expect too much from them. And Krueger recommends that one should not resign with them. One should not give up and should strive for the ideal of a good friendship.
In his "12 Friendship Test" says Krueger, how to recognize such friendships that you trust with your personal problems, help that the other has a permanent place in my mind. They are a large internal support: to them I think if I am alone and sometimes I even dream of them. And believe every second German that he is happy, especially by such friends.
Dr. Wolfgang Krüger:
How to win friends for life
Herder Verlag
9.95 €
Contact for interviews and review copies:
krueger-berlin@web.de
http://www.dr-wolfgang-krueger.de
Phone: 030/397 42 592
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